How to develop children effectively, despite the busyness and lack of time

We develop our beloved children. We develop here and there and in all directions. And they play football with us, and go to embroidery, and swim like an amphibian, and dance, and read “What good, caring parents we are,” we think with a fair amount of modesty.

Of course the good ones. That’s right: children have a lot of energy that needs to be redirected somewhere, otherwise they will have to grab their heads when our children start to organize a pogrom in the apartment and “stand on their heads”. Although, sometimes, this expression can be used in its direct meaning.

Teacher and pupil with raised hands at front of school class

Everything is great: the children are busy, the parents are happy. Perhaps, any parent wants the development of the child to be harmonious. Is that what you want? Yes for sure. Still, I would like to think that any not indifferent parent wants his children to be not only beautiful and loved, but also multifacetedly developed.

Let’s think. What does harmonious development mean in general?

This is the coherence of the whole, born from a combination of opposites (something like the omniscient Wikipedia says). Accordingly, when referring to the harmonious development of a child, we mean the totality of his physical, mental, emotional, and moral development. What else is there? In general, they are all together, but little by little they should be present. Like a field with a variety of cultures.

Well, if everything is clear with sports,, dancing, cutting and sewing circles, then the question is with the development of thinking. How do you personally develop the thinking of your children? Let’s mark the school now. After all, you will still take your child to football, even if they play it at physical education. Why? Because in the section they teach the game of football separately. Likewise with everything else. At school, we get some general knowledge, but we do not develop thinking in any way.

So where is the harmony here? You can develop your child in different directions. But where is the place for the development of thinking? In which of these circles do children learn to think in the big sense of the word? It turns out that one puzzle falls out of the desired “harmony”. But it is precisely the developed thinking that is the guide to a successful life.

Having come to the conclusion that the development of thinking in a child is one of the main components, let’s move on to the age at which it is best to engage in this development. The first, second, third year of life – the child is just beginning to learn about the world around him. Until the age of three, he forms in his memory images of everything that is around him. For a kid, this information, gushing from everywhere, is an immeasurable amount. But for the development of thinking it is still too little. In the first three years of life, various motor skills games are played with children, they talk so that they get used to speech, they try to pronounce some words on their own.

After three, we continue to develop speech, there are difficulties with pronunciation, this is the age of how-to children who have learned to say “why” and swear it at every step. This is the age at which children learn the basics of communicating with other people. They try to touch everything, to consider, to feel. A child with genuine interest absorbs everything that he hears and sees. Formation of separate functions of thinking. All this happens right up to school age.

After eight years, they slowly but surely begin to move towards adolescence, here the active formation of the mental base begins. Here they appear: school, endless homework, a lot of parallel developing circles. And as parents, we begin to treat our children differently. We perceive them as more conscious, growing people. We often leave them alone with questions. Maybe, of course, the age of why and how has passed, but a lot of incomprehensible remains. Often, drawing conclusions that the child should be more independent, we refuse to help him in this, brushing aside the phrases “go and think.” “Think about your behavior, think about your question, you can’t write an essay or solve a problem, so you sit and think.”

And then the child has a stupor. He simply does not know what they want from him at all, what to do at this moment. This gives rise to fears, insecurity in their actions, and how the layout is transferred to all areas of his life and work.

This is the best time when you should not miss the moment of formation of thinking. Do not miss the chance, teach the child to think, think and give him a clear understanding of how to do it. Instill confidence in him so that in the future he will be clearly focused on what actions to take.